Rejection

One action that most people find distasteful is that of being rejected. One of our strongest needs is to belong or be a part of. When another person or group decides not to include us for whatever reason, there is a tendency to question that reason. “Was there something that I lacked, is it some character flaw on my part, or am I just an unlikeable person?” These questions are normal to ask when you feel rejected. Begin by asking yourself why it was important for you to be accepted in the first place. If it is matter of seeing yourself as someone who is unlikeable, perhaps you are seeking out the wrong person or group to begin with. Why not seek out others who are more in line with who you are and what you enjoy in life? It might be easier than trying to work overtime to fit in to a situation that really isn’t you. That could apply to a job for which you are applying, your first date, ora social group. If there are any character traits that you possess that make it difficult for others to warm up to you, find out what they are by asking someone you trust. Then consciously work on improving that trait, but only if you believe it will make you a better person. Accepting who you are at this moment in time is the first step toward dealing with rejection. Most likely you have rejected someone or something in your lifetime. Consider what was behind your decision to do so and allow others to have that freedom. It will make your life so much easier. When was the last time you were rejected and what were your thoughts surrounding it?

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