That really bothers me

I recall people telling me that when we point a finger at another person for their faults, there are four fingers pointing back at us. If we believe we are the range of all possible behaviors, then the behavior that may irritate us most about another lies dormant within us. This dormancy may be based on what we suppress as least acceptable within ourselves. If our conscious or unconscious belief is that behaving out of prejudice or telling everyone around them what to do is irritating to us, we need to look at how that might be showing up in our lives today. Perhaps we proclaim to the world that we are loving and accepting of everyone, and then quietly make judgments about specific people or groups who don't match our thinking. What we resist persists. Another way to approach this is to accept this as part of our capability to experience every form of behavior and determine how it can be seen as a gift. We can hold the behavior up to a different perspective and use this to release its power on us. When I focus on what I accept within me, my relationship with others based on their behavior changes. Acceptance is not to be confused with approval of that behavior. Acceptance frees us from feeling negatively affected by what others do. The energy we expend in dealing with what bothers us about others can be rechanneled to healthier outlets. What bothers you about someone you know and how does that reflect upon you?