What you really want

When people are asked what it is that they want in life, they usually respond, "More money,' "A significant other," or "Lose 20 pounds." They focus on the end product and fail to see what underlies these desires. What if the next question had to do with what their life would be like if this desire was fulfilled? The responses would likely be, "I'd do more of the things I love," "I would have someone to share my life with," or "I'd feel better about myself and how I look." Then ask how the person would feel with their desires fulfilled. Most likely you would hear, "Confident," "Loved," or "Enthusiastic." When you get to this point ask the person what their life would be like if it was spent feeling confident, happy, and enthusiastic. This is the true foundation of what people really want in life. The rest is the material manifestation of how that is expressed in their life. Now go through this process with yourself to learn what you really want and begin to look for ways to live within the desired emotional state. The rest will fall into place. What do you really want in life today?